Relationships

Today we talked about relationships and how they start and the process that each phase of an relationship goes through. I was amazed by all the info. And how I actually have a better understanding about relationships and what we all go through. I think sometimes people think that they are the only ones going through something. We sometimes believe that no one understands us, especially in a relationship. We talked about how relationships fail because people blame each other rather than looking at their own behavior patterns. And when I really sit back and think about it. Its really true. We always see someone else's flaws but never our own. Prof Trapani said something that really stuck with me. He said that you can't change people but you can change behavior. And also that you have to be consciously aware of the role that you want. That in the future you should focus on the patterns in a relationship and not the personality of the person. Now as much as all of this makes sense to me, I believe that chemistry between two people is very very important. I mean, you can get along great with anyone but having someone that makes you feel a kind of euphoria is far and in-between. I just love this class and wish we had more time to really elaborate on some of these issues that we talk about in class.