Relationships

In class we talk about relationships which was a very touchy topic for me. Every relationship I ever been in was a long term relationship but for some reason I haven't found one that lasted. When I love, I loved hard and give my all and in return I expected the same feedback. I must admit this was the first time I looked at things from a different perspective, I put myself in the other person shoes! Maybe this person shows love differently, or maybe I didn't give the person enough time to open up! Not everybody expresses their feeling the way I do or the way I want them to but it doesn't mean that the person love u any less! If they didn't follow at my pace or my pattern I tend to distance myself feeling that our feelings aren't mutual.

In class we talk about the dysfunctional pattern and how to avoid confrontation within a relationship. I learned that relationships fail because people blame each rather than looking at ourselves. That's where the dominating and submissive role takes place. I also learn about Paradoxes which is sending a "double message". This really caught my attention because this is something I tend to do often. The teacher also went over the development and stages of a relationship. The Steve Duck's Filtering Theory and the Knapp's Relationship Development Model describe the steps and stages u go through in a relationship.