A Dyads You Need

Building dyads is one of the hardest things in this world. In my opinion, building dyads is beyond the communication, because finding honest and true dyads also depend on your luck. Sometimes, even if a person has a good communication skill and many friends around him, he doesn’t have any one who can be trusted. The dyads could be friends or loves. Whatever the dyad could be, I think two people being a sincere dyad could be destiny. Absolutely, you have to know how to communicate with your partners and distinguish between disingenuous friends and honest friends through communication. That’s the reason why we need to learn this course. Can you find out and build honest dyads that will depend on your luck and personality.

almost done!

Today, we've learned about the relationships. Either intimate or not. I've learned that in every relationship we are in, we always have to go on the same process over and over. There are two models regarding the relationship development. First is the Mark Knapp's model that relates and works well to describe many types of relationships: romantic couples, friends, business partners, roommates, etc..

Mark Knapp's model includes the:

Initiation which is very short, sometimes as short as 10-15 seconds. In this stage, interactants are concerned with making favorable impressions on each other. ExperimentingIn the next stage, individuals ask questions of each other in order to gain information about them and decide if they wish to continue the relationship. Intensifying is when self-disclosure becomes more common in the intensifying stage. The relationship becomes less formal, the interactants begin to see each other as individuals, and statements are made about the level of commitment each has to the relationship.Integrating is when the individuals become a pair in the integrating stage. They begin to do things together and, importantly, others come to see them as a pair.

and lastly, bonding it is when the relationship becomes a formal, sometimes legal, announcement of the relationship is made.

Knapp's Relationship Termination Model includes:

Differentiating this is when, partners begin to stress the "me" instead of the "we." In other words, the individuals begin to assert their independence.Circumscribing is the stage when the communication between the couple diminishes during this stage. They tend to avoid certain topics of discussion. Outwardly, the couple appears normal. At this stage, attempts can be made to discuss the relationship and return it to a positive state.Stagnating Stage is when the individuals avoid discussing the relationship because they think they know what the other will say. Terminating is the final stage of the relationship. Termination may come naturally, such as at the end of the semester when roommates move out, or arbitrarily, through divorce. Termination of the relationship can occur positively or negatively.

Second model is the Stephen Duck's Relationship Filtering Model is another way of looking at how relationships begin.

Duck's Relationship Filtering Model is a set of filters through which we make choices about the level of relationship we wish to pursue with others. The first filter, socioligical/incidental cues, describes the constraints placed on our meeting people due to where we live or work.

Second is the Preinteraction Cues the information we gain about people before we even interact with them leads us to exclude or include individuals with whom we wish to have a relationship.

Third is the Interaction Cues as we begin to interact with others, we make judgments about whether to include or exclude them from possible relationships.

Lastly is the cognitive Cues At the deepest level, we make judgments about people based on their personality and the degree to which we think it will match ours.

From the start, I know that relationships are complicated. There are times when we are the peak of happiness and also in despair. It is only the time that heals everything. The healing and getting in every relationship is a process that everybody has to go thru. Researchers proved that in every relations we have we always go through the same process over and over. But we can avoid the termination stage if and only if the individuals are willing not to terminate the relationship. Today, my belief about relationship became more clear to me and that s is it feels good when you're into it but it is full of sadness when both individual fall apart. =]

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7/28/10

Today, I learned about 2 types of theories. The 1st theory was about the Knapp's Relational Developmental Model which has 2 stages. Stages in coming together include initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, and bonding. Most of people stop at initiating stage because it is hard to move onto the next levels. Stages in coming apart include differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, and terminating. In this stage, people stuck at avoiding because they do not want to terminate their relationships. The 2nd theory is about Steve Duck;s Filtering Theory. He said that we all filter persons because we try to eliminate those negative people to get the best one based on sociological or incidental filter, pre-interaction filter, and cognitive filter.
The second thing I learned about was the secret tests. People use the tests to examinate the relationship whether they are in a closed relationship or not. They include indirect suggestion, separation, endurance, triagle: testing jealousy. It is really dangerous to test the jealousy because it can damage relationship. For example, you can test your partner by saying someone else is trying to date you because you want to see how your partner reacts. If the partner acted normal, you would think he/she does not care about that because you are not being loved. Otherwise, if the partner was jealous about that, you would think he/she is not generous.

relationships

Today's topic was about relationships and how they develop. It doesn't matter whether they are intimate relationships or friendships they all go through the same process. According to Knapps relational development model relationships start in stages and also end in stages. First you Initiate the first encounter, second you Experiment by trying to find a common ground in the relationship, third you Intensify and move toward greater involvement fourth you Integrate and become a couple. Once you become a couple you put your partner through tests to measure the persons commitment. The tests are 1- Indirect suggestions, 2-Separation test 3-Endurance test 4-Triangle test once the person passes all these tests they move on to the fifth stage Bonding which means public rituals to legitimize the relationship. If the relationship cannot stand up to internal and external stress it will go through the stages of coming apart. first is the Differentiating stage where you start to comment on differences you overlooked before second is the Circumscribing stage where you restrict communication on certain topics that may be painful or cause conflict. Third is the Stagnation stage where communication becomes infrequent. fourth is the avoiding stage this is where you avoid each other physically or emotionally and finally it leads to the Termination stage where you come to terms with the relationship being over. These stages make a lot of sense to me if u been through relationships that had a start an end you can see clearly how the relationship went through all those stages and maybe next time you wont waste your time on the coming apart stages and go straight for termination.

good tips to get together

Today's class shows me many ways that I will use in the future to improve my relationships. There were things that I was practicing such as initiating and experiencing without noticing them. However, some facts such as differenciating and circumscribing are so important that I will pay attention to them in the future. These are things that I relates to, but I was not aware of their impact in relationships.
Steve Duck's filtering theory is also something real and interesting. Our environment plays a huge role in our life. The physical attraction is good; but at the end of the day what we have in common plays is crucial in relationships.
The public speeking is something I really like. Eventhough I know it's not easy, I didn't a great comminucator like Ronald Reagan had a fear giving speech. This give me a lot of confidence because it shows me that no man is better than the other. We all have to learn how to do things. This confirms the proverb that says that practice makes perfect. So if I practice speeking I can become a geat public speaker.

7/28/2010

Today we were talking about relationships. When we hear world “relationship” we may think that is only between “boyfriend-girlfriend”; however we should think about relationship among people. This means that we can have relationship with our friends, family members as well as with husband or boyfriend. The main idea of relationship is different when we talk about husband and girlfriend, but the process of building our relationship between both of the people is the same. We have two types of relationship models; the Mark Knapp's Relational Development Model and Steve Duck's Filtering Theory Model. I can say that both of the models were good, and each of them works in real word of relationships. Professor explains that media create a model of relationship which affects children and adults look on that topic. Media affect in bad way our relationship because we create our wonderful model of relationship which is different than the reality.

We also learn how to do a good persuasive speech. It was fun to look how professor made very boring speech and then changed it to very interesting. Everything deepens how we are going to present it. There are elements thanks to which we can make our speech more interesting, like: tone of voice, gestures, eye contact or body language.

Relationships

Today's class definitely made me pay more attention to my communication in my own relationship. I realized things that I have said that could have been detrimental to people that I love and how I need to excerise more patience and listen as well. As the term ends with only having one class left I can say that I learned so much about myself in a short period of time and also I have met really great people too. I will really miss this class. :(

Relationship Class July 28th

Today's class was very interesting it was about relationship. What we consider a relationship ? As a human we are in all kind of relationship
A relationship is normally viewed as a connection between two individuals, such as a romantic or intimate relationship, or a parent-child relationship or any thing that you think you have a relation with. Relationship is a two way street and one should always keep a open road for communication to make it better. I feel one should be very honest in a relationship as relationships usually involve some level of interdependence. People in a relationship tend to influence each other, share their thoughts and feelings, and engage in activities together.You need to give freedoom in relationship as the syaing goes "Free your Love if it come backs to you it is yours,if it doesn't it was never yours". I like space in relationship as it needs to grow. Today I learnt that age does not matter in a relationship its the feelings that counts.

Second part of the class was about public speaking,which was very prower full as in todays market you need that skill very much. It taught me today that everything you do and say represent you front of others . It is very important to be honest with you audience. Use every part of your existance carefully. Even your hand can give out a story.

Interpersonal Communication and Persuasion.

I arrived late today; however, it didn't prevent me from taking advantage of most of the class. Today the professor talked about two interesting topics: interpersonal communication and persuasion. Being aware of how interpersonal communication works is very important since our lives revolves around meeting people every single day, and some of them become very important in our lives. That's why understanding the dynamics of relationships will help us be proactive when it comes to relationships. Relationships are a two-way street that includes our family, friends and romantic partners. When relationships fail, it's because people prefer blaming each other instead of looking at their behavior patterns. Depending on the circumstances, in relationships, everyone takes a role such as being passive, dominant, submissive, etc.; it has to be complementary--power must be distibuted.

As the professor explained, relationships go to a process, which starts when they forms until they break down. That being said, the Knapps' Relational Development Model says that relationships start with the very initial impression. It seems that many people approach their prospect partners and even their friends due to physical attraction. Then, according to this model, small talk takes place until this transcends the surface toward more intimacy, and that's when relationships become stronger. Nevertheless, there are many people who get stuck in the "experimenting phase" in the first stage as well as they do in the "avoinding phase" during the termination stage. The termination stage starts when people start focusing in their differences; then, commitment decreases, and silence, inactivity and physical/emotional separation take place in the relationship. We've also seen that the Steve's Duck Filtering Theory says we filter, through elimination, those people we want to get close to and one nice HUC101 students' video about that. I find both of these teories to be accurate since I feel related to both of them in many respects.

We also learned that persuasion is an art; the art of using words powerfully. People who possess information and communicate it effectively, gain respect. With persuasion we effectively communicate our knowledge to accomplish a goal: to convince people to understand our perspective. If we do it well, we can change other people's minds. Although there are things that are difficult to change in our listener (values, beliefs), there are some others such as attitudes, behaviors that can be easier to change...with proof, evidence of what we are talking about, of course. Next week, during the last class, we will put to test our persuasion skills.

7/28/2010

I loved the topic about how to give presentations. It was very interesting because when it comes to give presentation i don't have a good body language, i get very nervous, and shy. I know i can give a good presentations but i feel as if everyone is staring at me . When the professor got in to the details and gave the class ways on to give a presentation. But, to me the most important was trying to get the audiences attention. Once any person has the audience attention it becomes very easy to present and also fun at the same time. I hope when next week the speech is due that i can do very well and take into thought what the professor taught.

Class about relationships

I am very social person and I love relationships.I have a lot of friends and a boyfriend,so I have tons of different relationships.And it is hard to understand everything ehat is going on there.The professor was talking about dominant in relationship, and it is very close topic to me, because i am dominant and my best friends as well.So to keep your relationship we should both give up something in order to keep it work.I step back a lot of times and let her be a dominant, but with her it doesn't happened a lot, and I don't like it.It is very important to give a lot and receive back.And for some resons in a lot of my relationships I give more than I received.And I would like one day to find someone that I can build a relationship, when I will receive more.I think it is a nice feeling.
I like a lot steps in relationship tha professor showed us today.And it is very interesting, that even you are in the last step, you still can save your relationship.And I start thibnking about it.There are so many families members that have some issues between them and don't talk for a long long time and destroying their relationship, instead of just simply talk.I think that the biggest problem between all relationships - people are afraid to talk and discuss their problems.And me too sometimes, so we all should learn how to talk and communicate

07.28.10

In today's class, we looked at the models of Mark Knapp's Relational Development Model and Steve Duck's Filtering Theory Model. Both models and theories made me reflect on my relationships with my family and friends. Regarding the Knapp's Relational Development Model, I was able to relate all my relationships with this model because the relationships started and ended the way the model showed. I don't completely agree with Steve Duck's Filtering Theory Model because there are people have relationships who are very different when it comes to demographics, environmental factors, or physical looks. Those relationships are initiated and maintained because they are close emotionally, and all of the other superficial factors isn't always the reason. Overall, a good relationship requires a proactive communication between the two people. The professor also discussed about how the media affects relationships and communication. I was slightly worried when he mentioned the face to face communication and how media creates an ideal portrayal of communication between people because I was suppose to talk about that in our group presentation.

Then the professor explained to us about a good persuasive speech. He went through the introduction, body, and conclusion of the speech that has to be presented next week. Going through them, I remembered (as an audience) all the speeches I heard from teachers to the speakers at my high school graduation. We had two speakers, a man who was a politician for Brooklyn and Russell Simmons. The Politician was a short, balding man and I expected him to be boring but he turned out to be a great public speaker. He was very enthusiastic, eager and funny about what he was telling us and everyone had a great time listening to him. On the other hand, when Russell Simmons came out, everyone was shouting, applauding, and screaming. But when he started talking, I realize now that he didn't do a good job at grasping everyone's attention towards the end of his speech because he kept going off track and his voice lacked confidence. I was definitely zoned out during his speech and I was sitting in the front row too. Once again I realized that Communication, especially verbal communication that's done publicly, is difficult and it is learned.

Relationship

Relationship, according to Mark Knapp (Sarah Trenholm," Tinking trough Communication), has two major stages; incoming together and incoming apart. In coming together stages are as follows: initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating and bonding. In coming apart stages are differentiating,circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, and terminating.

Whether he is right or not about the whole stages I have been with my wife, whom I knew two months before we got married, for eleven years. We have one son and always feel happy, even getting happier. By being compromised with one another I hope Knapp's idea is wrong. But, who knows. I'll let inflows. My life.

group day!!

it was a nice day. I'm almost late. we went to a computer Labs. first, we do a little research which take a long time to finish it. second, we combined all the information to One pieces. third, lunch together and go home. yeah just like that 3....2....1....ding. our project was there nice N hot. i know things always sounded easier than actually do it. that's why people always said it's sounds good." oOK.no more joking really tough day for me because i didn't prepared anything at all. so i have to do everything in one day. i found a lots of stuff relate to our topic. just that without preparing.i change my example couple times. lucky there is something call YOUTUBE. i found what i want. mission 1 complete. after research, we shared our information and try to joint them together. for sure, they don't fit. so we did some editing. make it look better. that's pretty much everything we do in the morning. after that we went home.
i just want to say that it's much easier to do project with others. when you in a group everyone's ideas might inspired you with other great ideas.

July 21, 2010

After two weeks of preparing we finally did a group presentation. I was nervous challenge because I don’t like when someone records me. However I had to force myself to do it. I don’t really like team work but this time I enjoyed working with my group. It was kind of funny and stressing at ones. I think we did a good job, and our group communication was great. I think it was the main point of doing it from that day I have changed my way of thinking about team work. Everything depends of the people you working with. If a group of people have the same goal it must work out
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Professor informed us before we did our group project how to be a good leader and how to work is a group. Thanks to that we didn’t fight ;-))) .We learned how to listen to others and how to make all people to take a part in that project. People were doing their best. I was even surprised how they are prepared to this project. It was impressing to watch all us working together .I hope all my next group projects will bring me so much happiness as this one.

Working in a Group

Before learning the chapter Group Communication, we have gained a experience in working in a group to do a project about a video showing how to make a good presentation. In order to make a successful project, we have prepared more than two weeks. First of all, we start to discuss the topic and arrange different assignments for each one. Absolutely, we have to choose a team leader first. We get a team leader who bravely makes decisions. However, there are some advantages and disadvantages. The advantages are the process of the project running efficiently, saving much time without the useless discussion and every one getting a clear assignment. There are some disadvantages. For example, she doesn’t listen the members’ idea, which makes the member feel she doesn’t know how to respect others. In conclusion, I think we get a good leader. I know she is the person spending the most in this project. She also just a student learning how to make a good communication. Also, she makes a good example to us. A good leader is not easy to be. We have to know handle all the members and make the project running efficiently. At the same time, we need to know listen to others and make the member feel you are kind and you are a person who knows to respect the members. Even if the member is talking a bad idea, the leader needs to know use a euphemistical way to stop it.

Wednessday, July 21,2010. The Fifth Class In a Group. by Shoma Mukherjee

Today was very special , as we had the chance to work in group. As we are taught that "A group is a special kind of entity.It is a collection of individuals who,as a result of interacting with one another over the time ,become interdependent,developing shared patterns of behavior and a collective identity ." Not every aggregate is a group. Today we came to know some new things about ourselves and others that we can be Leaders ,Followers, Creaters and Achivers. Everyone in a group has someting to say and we should listen to everyone and do what is good for the group and getting the work done.

Our group showed all the postive attidue as very responsible individuals . we all meet at the same time ,we had people in our groups who are having very hard times as their lovedones are in hospitals but that didn't keep them away from their responsibilities as a group they kept their personal lives away from todays work. Team work was great .hope to get an "A".

Self-Centered vs Selfish

This is the 4th day of class and it becomes more interesting each week. We learned the meanings, differences and the traits of being Self-Centered and Selfish. I was honestly confused because to my knowledge it was basically the samething just different terms. A Self-Centered person cares about them self and their own needs but will not risk hurting another person. A selfish person is one seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being.
Some of the traits of being Self-Centered:1. Putting themselves first 2. only caring about their needs and wants 3. being unable to see another’s perspective 4. being uncaring of others.
Some of the traits of being Selfish:1. Being quick temptered2. Agrumentative3. Lack of empathy4. Greedy...A person can be both (selfish and self-centered) or only one of them.

We also learned about the 3 dimension of time: The Past, Present and The Future. Our past is where the meaning comes from, and our future is whats coming toward us. You cant change the past or control the present all you can do is wait for the future and not make the same mistakes you made a before.

4th Class

This class was emotionally draining. There were a lot of definitions and concepts to take in. How communication should be used asa tool to create a positive outcome. That your goal should always be for a positive outcome regardless of the situation. Also we talked about the difference between being Self-Centered and Selfish. That being Self-Centered is a positive thing and your not hurting anyone but being Selfish is when you are hurting people. We learned that Time is the real motivation for all waking up in the morning and doing things. I always thought that the motivation to wake up was hope of faith or a goal, but I found out quickly that I was wrong. It seems that time is our motivation because we live in the past, present and future. Most of us live in the past and I think that to be true. I know for a fact there are things that I do now that have been influence solely on the past. I always thought that it was a good thing to do that. But what I have learn shows me that its really a hinderance because all it does is create fear. Then we talked about Verbal and Non-Verbal communication. Non- Verbal is more important than Verbal communication because regardless of what you say. Your body language can tell another story. I really cant believe all the information that I am learning in such a short time. This is one of the best classes that I have had.

Not enough times

The discussion about the effect of time on our behaviour is really interesting. It provide the truth how we created the perception base on our past and prevent us from moving forward the future. We are just live in the past; however that is the past that had been with us for so long how can we ever going to let it go so easily. I wish we have more times to discuss about this so we can find the more suitable solution for our own situation.

The awareness about the effect of time is not going to last in my memory for so long especially when I have other things to do. It is the life learning process for me in order to letting go of the past. It is time again that play a major role on this. Times can take everything away, in this case, it take our memory but is it that easy to really let go of the past such as the mistakes that we wish it never happened. Why I still remember that after for so many years go by.

I guess it is going to take more times to help me with that.

FOURTH CLASS

I learned many things today, but it'd be impossible to put them all together in just two paragraphs. I'll talk about the ones that most got my attention. It was interesting to know that we relate to ourselves in terms of time. Time is what keep us moving, but it seems that most of us are never in the present. Yeah, it sounds crazy, but it seems that while we might be "present" physically, our minds are in other places most of the time. It means that WE, in reality, are in the only places we can go...the three dimensions of time: past, present, and future. Our past is where meaning comes from, and our future is coming toward us--is unpredictable. It's really interesting because our future is our past, which we have to clear to break down any barrier with our future. However, we can put something in the future to take action NOW (the present) because putting things in the future is what motivates us to achieve them. For example, we can do thousands of lists or whatever to clean up our place, but we most likely will end up forgetting everything about it because there's no enough motivation. But, if we plan to do something we really want like inviting some friends to watch the game together at your place, you will most likely clean everything with no hesitation.

Another thing that impressed me a lot was how many people can be so "lookist"? It's truly sad how many people can make false assumptions about a person based purely on his or her look. They assign qualities to other people for the way they look. They don't even know him/her, but if someone is extremely attractive, they will assign them all the good qualities a human being can have. They will try to be liked by them. I think it's unfair because people who is not so good-looking are underrated for the same reason, and those who were put in a pedestal are expected to do things that go beyond their possibilities. And, even though very good-looking people can find it easier to get things at first, it will be difficult for them later because usually people don't care what is inside their hearts--they don't want to know them; it's enough for them to see their neat appearance. As easily as they accept beautiful people only because of their looks, people will disregard them when they don't posses physical beauty anymore if the relationship is based only on that. That's why I think we have to learn to know people beyond what they appear to be at first sight.

07-14-2010

Learning today that we usually live in the past or future never really in the present made so much sense. My whole life my future was driven by my past so it wouldn't repeat it self, now i know why. Finding out that making future plans to motivate the present is a great key to success. It all really depends on the type of personality you have. For some people making list may work or making future plans to motivate your present might be their style. I am little of both when i make a list i usually get through the whole list leaving only one thing out but having a dead line also motivates me, so i try try to combine both.
I also learned that perception has an influence on how you communicate to the world and the feedback u receive from people on how you communicate affects your perception so it becomes a cycle. Its all on you if you want to continue with the same cycle or if you want to better your communication skills by listening to the feedback you receive and letting it influence your perception so you can change the way you communicate to the world.

Another learning day

I have been trying to stop procarcinating for long time. Making a list of things never worked for me. However, today I learned new way that will help me stop procracinating. By programing an even in the future, you will be so motivated that will do everything you have to do by then in order for that event to take place the way you want it. This way, you will go throught everything without even noticing how much you've done.
I also learned that one should stop bringing past negative memories in to your present because it would be a barrier between you and your future. So the best way to create your future is to white out negative momories or to complete them to get closure. Some times we are holding empty lugage that influence our way of thinking and acting. Therefore, the best way to deal with them is to selfdisclosure and find approprite solution for them.+

´june 14, 2010

hi!

Today in class we learned about the non verbal communication.
I learned that a quick reaction is bad and we must make sure always that we take control in the way we communicate. We were also taught how time made us who we are today. There are three dimensions in time and these are the past, present, and future.I also learned that what happened in thee past some way or another it affects us to what is happening to us in the present or what will be happening to us in the future.

"To be self-centered doesn't mean being selfish", this statement made me realize that sometimes we don't have to give everything to person we love but we must also leave something for ourselves. We must always remember to we communication in proactive way, in which we must always be consciously aware to everything that is happening to us.

4th week of the class

Today, I learned about the differences between self-centered and selfish as I was always confused. Let’s just put it in a simple way to make it more clarified. Self-centered is limited to or caring only about yourself and your own needs but you are not putting anyone in a harm way. For example, if you and someone are looking for a job simultaneously but that person really needs that job to take care of his/her family, however; you also want to get the job over that person. You are being self-centered because you need that you to satisfy your needs. In contrast, selfish is thinking and acting as if one's own desires and interests are more important than the interests and desires of others. By saying selfish, you are getting benefit from people by hurting them. For example, stealing your friend’s girl friend or boyfriend could be considered selfish.
I also learned about reconstructing you and self. Time is an important issue over here. Time is interacted by 3 elements: past, present, and future. As the future is always coming toward us, we have to get over the past in order to continue our future. We have to put something in the future to motivate us to take action in present. Once we wiped out the past, we will be able to move on our new future.

07/14/2010

Hi, today I have been talking that the goal of communication is to be proactive and to have a positive outcome. I t was interesting to learn that Self-centered and Selfish person are two different things. Self-centered person don’t hurt anybody, it is healthy for us and it works like a being in a relationship with ourselves. We are self-centered when we competing for a job. In case when we hurt someone or yourself we became a selfish person. We are selfish when we steeling or taking drugs.
Our goal is to change world through the communication. It is not easy to control the way that we communicate because we are meaning making machines. It was a little bit hard to understand the process of Time. However it was great to learn that no one can be 100% in Present .Our conscious go in dimension in time to the Past or to the Future. The Present is about action, this is why we know if we are in Present. When we complete the past than we are ready to create the future. It is important to delete the bad memories to create our life. T
I have also learned that the nonverbal communication serves us well in our everyday verbal communication. We should study it because nonverbal comm. complements verbal communication. We have two types of nonverbal communication: intentional and the unintentional.

The Past

The past is alway bothering me in making a plan for the future. Especially some thing serious about my life. Even today I find difficulty to concentrate in the class.
My sister in law lost my car two weeks ago in Jackson height. After reporting to the police I have been without it for two weeks after I found it yesterday around my neighborhood. The police inspected it and found nothing damaged or any suspected. I should have been happy to have my car back. But what bothering me are who did it, what motives, and/or did she really lose it or forgot.
Sure Prof. I have to erase it. But I can. I try to at least to put it aside. The past.

In today’s class we learned how important nonverbal communication is. Nonverbal communication can be either intentional or unintentional. Intentional is when you do something on purpose or you plan to do it. Unintentional is when you are not conscious what is going to happen or is about to happen. Nonverbal communication is easy to notice because it is often using expressions like gestures, mimics, postures, attitude, and behavior as well as your tone of voice so that the message can be interpreted.
Also, we discussed how to rebuild ourselves. The primary factor to that leads us on life is the time. To begin with, there are types of time, The Past, Present, and Future. It is said that most people don’t live in the present time instead of they live in the past. Most of us know that the past is something we just did few seconds ago. Future is unpredictable and it is always coming toward us, so the past make us react.

Past Present and the Future

I must say that todays class really made me think alot about my life and the decisions I've made. I thought about my past and realize that it has a very strong influence on me at the moment and I really want to change that becaus right now I do feel like I'm at a dead end with myself. At this point I feel like I need to remold myself like a piece of clay to be the person I really want to be and actually be happy inside and out. Anger plays a huge part in my interactions with people that are close to me and I flip out alot to the point where im just tired of myself. I want to be a more positive person especially with the people I love.

07/14

The sentence I was very interested in this morning is using communicate which is the most powerful tool to get positive outcome. The human being of self-centered doesn’t mean self-fish. We should think of ourselves. To be centered, we take ourselves first and love ourselves. And competing job with somebody is self-centered. Stealing from people is self-fish. The difference of self-centered and self-fish is that being self-centered not hurting anybody. No listening to someone is self-fish.
Another interesting is time. There are 3 demotion of time: past, present and future. Future toward to us, we can put everything we want in the future. Most of people, the past is in our future. If the future toward us, it means the past toward us.

Very Effective Class today.

It was a very

Self-center and Selfish

After this class, professor refreshes my opinion to the self-center and selfish. These two words are seemed to be words having easy meaning. Actually, it is very easy to mix their meanings and there is a deep meaning in these two words. Self-center may be an instinct of human. As professor’s saying, almost people try to do something which it is for their satisfaction, besides social workers and the people giving money to the homeless. To a certain extent, I agree with this idea. We don’t do something hurting anybody, because hurting somebody is a selfish behavior. Professor gives us many examples to explain the difference between self-center and selfish. I finally get a true meaning of these two words. Self-center is not bad thing. All human being will do something make them have satisfaction. In addition, I have to say again why I love this professor. He not only can use a efficient way to make us learn the knowledge on the book, but also his examples are so interesting and it is easy to make us understand the difficult point easily.

fourth class

Today in class was very informative. My favorite topics was the past, present, and future. Any choices that we as humans make in our lives will affect our future even if it is positive or negative. I felt was important to everyone in their personal lives. Also the topic about how other cultures have different body of hand gestures that might be offending. I found it very important because personally i always liked to experience other cultures and i still do. Especially this topic was very important because America is a very closed minded country and anything they see that is girly they might considered it no offense homosexual. It is very very fun to now and explore people and culture which shapes the world.

Fourth class

The time goes too fast, I really enjoyed the class, we learn the difference between self-centered and selfish. Most all human beings are self-centered because it is healthy to sometimes think about ourselves since we are not hurting anyone around us we cannot say that we are selfish, this is how I understand the differences between those two. It is a very interesting point, because when I used to do something for myself I believes that I was being selfish, but I wasn't.
Then, the professor talk about "time", past, present and future, he gave us great examples such as why do we procrastinate so much in our lives. It is amazing how we are not present at all because we think about what happened in the past or what we will do in the future. It is ckear that if we don't take action and so not clear what is stopping us to cross the barrier, we will never acheive our dreams. I believe that we all have been touched by his comments and stories because in each one of them there is something similar that happened in our lives.
Finally, he explained us about non verbal communication, how can we interpret some gestures, postures or facial expression, depending where we come from.
Everyday I am learning something new from this class, thank you professor to teach us with so much passion!

Self centered vs. Selfish

Self centered vs. being selfish was a new discovery for me. I have to admit that I am selfish at times, which also makes me realize that much of my reacting is based on my selfish needs. I learned that being proactive takes a moment to pause while I am feeling my emotions about to burst. This will be a complicated skill to adapt but like I always say practice does perfect. My conscious awareness is oblivious to all this information and being that I am all about improving my self to be the best me in this life time. I am aware that I must erase my past to have a healthy future. I have caused many barriers along the way but this part of my development in growing as a person.

It is so bugged-out to me that fear is the steam of all the non-sense I have created in my life. Now I know that I have to create a clean slate in order to not let anything get in the way of my future. My break is about to end and I have to eat. I will add more later.

the fourth class

Todays morning class was the usuall...interesting! The professor talked about physcological behaviors which grasped my attention. The Professor discussed the time frame of past, present and future in a way i never looked at it. But yet it all made sense to me, you put things in your future your dreams things you want, desire Then mixed with time all those things serve as motivation to bring your future to self. Highly aprecciative lecture, thank you.

today is deep.

today's topic is deep. i'm late for the class but lucky that i didn't miss the best part. when i first heard that " most of people were never present." i don't understand. later on i understand that most of people's mind were either in past or future.

Language and Nonverbal Communication. 07/14/2010

I learned a lot about the language that we spoke everyday. It is true that one word could make up of couple different meaning and for people who don't learn or study communication they don't tell the different between the serious of language that we spoke everyday. One thing that I want to make it clean is every word that come out from our mouth it has poison and it really heart people feeling espeacially when we are angry and we don't feel want to heart people but we actually out of control. Culture is the most important thing that we need to learn when we are going to do business with people that is from different country. Moreover, our personality actually is come from the language that we speak and how we use the right language to communicate.
I still remember that when I am six years old and I went to Chinese Temple in our village with my cousin brother and his name is Peter. We ate all the food that the Temple worker prepare for praying ceremony and they tell our parents that we ate the food without their permition and my mother slap my hand right away but my auntie don't bet my cousin brother and I feel so angry because why my mother punch me but my auntie doesn't. After ten years Peter has become the gangster and he took drug everyday, I finally understand that when we are childen the parents always want us to act mannerly. My mother said she love me the most but sometime she cannot act in front of my three younger sister because they will piss off when they found out that my mother only like boy instead of girl. Therefore, she only colud love me the most in her heart and this is what we call nonverbal communication.

my best class ever

First of all I am very happy that I took this class with Pr.Trapani.Because you never feel the time and it is a lot of fun.
We were talking about self-centered and self -selfish people.And I got confused ,because in many times i thought that I behaived like self-selfish person, but it appeared that I was not hurting anyone and I was just protecting myself,according to my self-centered.I learned that if you hurt someone in any ways - it is self-selfishness.For example, if you only don't listen, you already hurt this person, because this person chose you to speak.That was very important information for me.I needed it very much to understand many things that are going on around me.
Also I learned from the class that communication is for positive outcome.And if it contains negative outcome, we don't need that kind of communication and we should try to avoid it, that is when we need to learn not to react , but proact.And I personally need it a lot.
We were talking about Time: past, present and future.Professor told us that a lot of people stay in past or future and never live in present.I am that person.My mind is always in the pasr t or future, and mostly in the past.And it is true that it kind of a circle of past and present and never goes to future.I kind of have this wall between present and future.And I need to learn more about it ,because it is very important for me.
Thank you professor for such interesting material.

Past, Present and Future = To Time, by Shoma Mukherjee

Past, Present and Future = To Time or Time is past ,Present and Future. Time is very powerful as it motivates every moment of your life, it is the driving force of our existance. I once read that “The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be." but in today's class I learnt that you cannot change the past and future is coming towards you ,and you should live in the present. The most important leasson I learnt from all this was One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.”When people consider the past as free will they are filled with remorse and regret.When they consider the future as destiny, lethargy and inertia set in.A wise person will consider the past as destiny and the future as free will.When you consider the past as destiny, no more questions are raised and the mind is at ease.And when you consider the future as free will you are filled with enthusiasm and dynamism.Of course there will be some uncertainty when you consider the future as free will, and some anxiety, but it can also bring alertness and creativity.Consider the past as destiny, the future as free will and the present moment as Divinity.

It was very interesting to learn that in dictonary both self centred and selfish, means almost the same have the Egotism,self serving and self absorbed, but one is healthy and one is not. As human being we are very selfcentered ,we do things or create things for our satisfation, but it will be very selfish when that creation hurt someone else. According to my understanding if we fail to satisfy ourselves we cannot help ours. If you fulfil your needs first than only you truly can think about others as you will not feel cheated.

The most sweet part of our life is that we are communicating even when we are silent . How this beautiful creation of "GOD" which we live in can give massages in so many different ways. As we learnt today that how " Nonverable" Communication consists of multiple codes ,is immediate, Continuous and Natural. "Nonverable" Communication is both universal and cultural. It made me relize,we should learn about differnt culture and their norms as even your nonverable communication have different meaning in other parts of the world.

07.14.10

Today's class made me rethink about the word 'self-centered.' I've always consided 'self-centeredness' was equivalent to 'selfishness', but in today's class the professor explained the difference. 'Self-centeredness' is when I am good to myself while I'm not hurting anyone else, and 'selfishness' is when my self interest hurt others. I always thought that I was always giving to others or altruistic and not 'self-centered', but I realized that I gave help to others to feel good about myself as a person. Therefore, I am 'self-centered' and it's not a bad thing at all.

The professor also gave a 'deep' lecture about how time has made us who we are today, and how time motivates us to constantly move. He pointed out about how no one is actually is in the present because our mind wanders to the past or the future. In order to be in the present, we have to act upon it. He also mentioned how in the present, we create a list to do for the future and we don't always do them. But if we created a future that'll motivate us to do them, we will most likely do them. The professor also explained how we shouldn't let fear prevent us from anythings, and about self-fulfulling prophecy. The topic kind of reminded me of a book I read, "Think and Grow Rich". Both the professor and the book talk about how fear make us stay within a cycle of the past and the present. Also our self-consious thoughts, or self, plays a very important role when we're trying to make the step for the future.

Photo Story

At the beginning of the class, I am so confused why professor tells us to bring the photo of our childhood. I feel so interested when I know the photos are used for creating a photo story about your classmates’ childhood and dreams. The funny point is we just pick one up and we have to guess who it is actually. And then, we need to guess how the classmate’s childhood is and what kind of person he/she will be through the background and the dressing. I think it is a very useful practice to me, because in my major, I always need to create a touching and meaningful story for the picture I take. In addition, there are much funny mistakes. Sometimes, we can’t distinguish the person who is boy or girl in the image because some pictures are a very little baby, so they will make the story to be a wrong way. After presenting the story, the classmate in the image will stand up. When you know that “he” actually is a girl, we will get an ineffable feeling. Especially, the person creating the story will make a loud laugh.

third communication class

We started by exchanging our childhood pictures and write a story about the child without knowing who is he. My classmate and I wrote as tory about Fanny and tell to the class how we imagined her childhood in her country. Then, we talked about perception, how we select, organize and give a meaning to it. It is interesting how each one of us interpret things with what we see.

As the professor said, perception depends of our culture, beliefs, values, experiences, attitude,etc...

The professor also explained us what is ethnocentrism, extremism and stereotype, he also gave us how he defines communication "The sharing and creating of meaning through human symbolic interaction.

Finally we formed the groups for the final project, my group will do a music video!

first day of class

My first communication class:
Hello, my first day of class was not what I was expected, I really enjoyed it and I didn't feel being uncomfortable.
Professor Santo Trapani is very entertaining, he started right away with an activity to introduce each other. I did not like this kind of exercise at the beginning but it was actually a great activity because I already can see that we are a great group. I know that at the end of the semester my communication skills will improve since I am not a big talker. I like the way the professor described the word “yourself”, the self is pure and the you is what is exposed to the world, I have never think about it, I even took the same word in my language just to see.
After the break we did another activity by introducing one classmate to the class, it was a good exercise for the next homework we have to present next class, very helpful. We talked about self-disclosure, he gave us some examples of what he is expecting us to present to the class and he also explained us about intrapersonal and interpersonal (relationship) communication.
We also went through the syllabus and all the assignments that we will do. I believe that I am going to enjoy this class even though it will demand a lot of effort especially for the group project.
However, professor Santo Trapani motivates all the class and I believe that we all going to do a great job by learning new communication skills.

third class

This is the third class. I expected what professor planned to do with our pictures. It was interesting when everyone was figuring out who is exactly person in the picture. I got a picture which is white-black photo copy. But we can directly know who she is. She was about 15 years old in the picture. She was tall and looked like model body. So we created a story about she comes to New York because of her model dream. The fact is that she is doing model. So our perspective was correct when we just looked at the picture.

Another thing was that my classmates who selected my picture can’t point out me. They guessed the little cute girl was a boy in the picture.

Interesting Lesson

Oops! Time flies so fast. This class is almost halfway toward to the end of the semester. Learning in class one day seems to be experiencing my whole life because everything professor Trapani taught us was a great lesson to be learned.

Today, I learned about perception. Each person has his/her own perception on different aspects. For example, when one of my classmate's photo was showed to the whole class, someone said that person is from philippines but actually she is from China because she is Asian. In addition, I learned how to be a good listener. As a good listener, he/she never interrupts others when they are speaking. A good listener only gives advises unless they ask you to do so because as a matter of fact you will ruin the entire conversation if you try to be an expert. After this lesson, I realized that I always interrupted people when they tried to share something to me. I noticed it was not an appropriate thing to do. Therefore, I will know how to deal with this when I have this same situation.

Today's lesson was very fun and interesting. When the class was divided into group so know which picture is it was fun. Many of the classmates were trying to know which person was and it came to perception. When a person see a picture of another person people assumed just because the floor and background was clean it was because they were middle class. What people tend to see is what they percive. Also a way many individual see things in many different ways. They also believe what they see.

Today was an exciting class. I was very anxious to know what the professor had planned to do with the pictures. My classmate and I were given a picture to discover who the person might be based on what we see or know so far which is called Perception. I learned from that exercise that we judge or assume things that aren’t right based on our own experience or what we think about that person just by looking. In order to help ourselves to be a better person, we shouldn’t make judgments about any person before knowing person. I also learned that listening play an important role in our communication. Being a good listener can guide you to be an effective interpreter and analyze things more accurate. Being in work group is important to listen to each other so that you can discuss, participate and get involved into it.
Ethnocentrism was another topic in today’s class. I have heard that word before but I wasn’t aware of what really meant. Today, I learned so much that I never thought that the word can be hurtful when it is used an extreme way and the ethnocentrism could lead to the stereotype. However, this world is not bad at all. I can be used to express how we feel about something we are proud such your culture and traditions.

Today i was late to class because i had to be sworn in for my citizenship. But I'm not too happy about it, they took my green card away and i was planing on getting on a plane Saturday to Mexico for my birthday. Now they don't want to give me a passport I'm so mad land of freedom what a joke. Okay i vented back to class.
Today class was about listening and communication. I always believed i was a good listener but when professor Santo defined what a good listener is it made me think twice. I always have a habit of interrupting, commenting, judging and definitely giving advice. I always believed people told me their problems for my advice and i always gave it regardless if they asked for it or not. Also the part of people having different meaning for the same problem or situation is very true and its hard to always put yourself in the other persons shoes. i always like to think I'm right and for the most part i am but now I'm really gonna try to step out of myself and look at things from different views. That can only help you in life and relationships.

Third Class

Today, at the beginning of the class, we exchanged photos. Hmmm... well, in reality, the ones who brought their pics shared them, and the ones who didn't joint to them. It was an interesting experience because we had to make up a story from just one image (a baby's one)! To make that possible, our perception played an important role. For example, my partner and I analized one picture, and we came to the conclusion whose it was just because it was sort of old-fashioned. And, even though we had some information about him from previous activities such as self-disclosure and short-interview, we decided to made something up. We added some information, and we changed his nationality!!

Besides ours, there were other interesting pics' interpretations. There were even some classmates who got confused with the gender of the kid in their picture. That activity was a very good example of how the perception process is. We select information, organize it and give it a meaning, which makes us react certain ways before certain stimuli. I also learned how important good listening is. It enhances our communication because it will enable us to better understand the sender's message; however, we first have to get rid of some blinders that prevents us from doing so (this way, we would create a comfortable environment that leads to effective communication). I also learned that conscious awareness is the best way to handle any situation; it will enable us to be proactive rather than reactive, which allows effective communication to take place.

Third Class

Today seemed like a really long day. We did an exercise about perception and how we view things that we see. Then we talked about what perception is and how we can use it to better ourselves and communicate better with others. I really love this class. I am getting so much information about things I never even thought about. We talked about Listening and how important it is to interpet what it is that the person talking to you is trying to convey. That sometimes people just want you to listen and not have an opinion or judge them.
We also started out groups today. We have 6 people in our group, Me, Fannie, Tenille, Billo, Johanna and Yuang. We decided that we are going to do our presentation on " How does the media affect communication". We are going to do half video and half presentation. I am very excited about it and can't wait to get started.
In the beginning I was a little nervous about this class and presenting in front of them. But now in the third week I am a lot more comfortable around everyone in the class and I am not as nervous as I was before. I am actually looking forward to learning more and presenting infront of the class.

3rd session of class

Today I was an half an hour late due to traffic :-( but the good thing about it was the professor was later then me which made it look like I was on time :-) . Today my class had a interesting lesson. We had to bring in our baby pictures and a random classmate had to write a story behind the picture. The baby picture I wrote a story on, I had figured out all wrong. I try to point the person out by the shape of their eyebrows which was the worst idea ever. The guy I pointed out to be in the picture happen so to be a girl. My perspective was totally off but I still enjoyed the lesson as well as the class.

The professor give a simple and clear definition of Communication" The sharing+ creating of meaning through human symbolic interaction". He also made it clear that the word Meaning can be use and presented in different terms. Two people can have different meanings of something that's the same. Its best to be open minded and try to understand the other person meaning before you judge or comply it as being wrong.

Pretty Cool Day Today

Our professor was late today!. however, that problem has not change anything in the class, it was still awesome and alive. Well last week we had an assignment and that is to bring a picture of us when we were young. Unfotunately, almost 70 percent of the class did not bring their picture. I felt that professor Tarapani got kind of upset because of that. However, the show must go on. He decided to put the students who had pictures with the students who did not have. We combined in the groups, some had groups of 3 and some were just group of 2. Fortunately I was assigned in a group of three.

Professor Tarapani the pictures we had and distribute it to each group. Each group had different picture--pictures that we should not know who was in it. After distributing all of the pictures. he told us to look at the picture and by looking at it, create a story;where the child was born, what is his/her age in the picture, what are his/her hobbies, background and what does he/she wanna be in the future. It sounded like pretty impossible,"how could we make a life story in an non moving picture?" well, i thought it was hard. However, it came out well. After finishing the story, each group had to stand up in front of the class and discuss their stories that they made for the particular picture. some groups were funny because they had mistakes on the child's gender but that's just the way it is. One important thing I learned in the class was that all of us make the first impressions and judgments to people when seeing them at the first time. It is something that we would not control, however it also changes as we start to know the person very well.

My second communication class

Today's class was another great class, we began the class by reading and talking about the article "Why take this class?" It is a very interesting article that explains you how communication is important in our daily life, at our job, with our friends and family.
In any places you are, you always need to communicate. We talked about how we communicate differently depending with who we are. We also talked about how communication can be important even though we have a degree, sometimes you can be hired not for what you know but for who you are, I like this quote, that was on the article. Some people have such strong personality not matter where they come from they can become very successful.
Then, we talked about how ancient interpret communication and how it was used, we mentionned Aristotle and how he could persuave other people.
We also discuss the core competencies, the professor also mentionned how pejorative comments can be bad and does not give you any solution yo your problems.
We, then continue with presentions, they were great because we all know how we feel when we have to stand a front of the classroom.
I will say again that I begin to like communication, thanks to professor Trapani to make us enjoy this class.

Today we had to bring our pictures as we were babies, than we exchanged them with other classmates .We gave our perception about the person who was on the picture. Thanks to that exercise I have learned how the PRECEPTIONS works, we need to: 1-select,2-organize and 3-give it meaning. It was very interesting experience because we not only learned something but also it made all people laughing.
The ethnocentrism is the belief that one culture is superior to everyone else. Extremism is when we start to look down at other cultures like: KKK, NAZIS etc. There are many people who still belief in stereotypes and for most of the time they are closed minded by the religion, life style or other aspects. I have learned the definition of communication which is “The sharing+ creating of meaning through human symbolic interactions”. We are meaning making machines and some people belief that the only meaning that life has is the only meaning you assigned to it. Meaning causes turmoil which is; giving the wrong meanings or stress etc. I have also learned about Psychological Perspectives, Social perspectives, Pragmatic perspectives and Cultural Studies.
After all we made groups and we decided what about our final presentation is going to be about. I happy about with whom I will be working because we have the same idea of the topic and I think we understand each other well.

7.7.10

Today was fun. we sharing our photos and make up a story. the hardtest part was making the story. after listen to few others story, i finally have idea how to do it.(guess what? just write it.) what i learned from today was life was has no meaning, but the one you assign. we also form a group with six.

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Discovery

Every day of this communication class is as exiting as important. Today again I found out about how perception can sometimes lead someone to the wrong direction. When I and Tenille looked at the picture we had, we saw a cute boy from philinpine. However, after presentation, we found out that she was actually a girl from China. This mistake happens frequently in real life. When you see an unknown person and then by either his or her skin color or by the way she or he is dressed you think of them as someone he or she is not. This means that our perceptions of people or things must be interpreted very carefully. We should also be careful with our perceptions because they may lead us to stereotyping other people for wrong raisons.`

challenging

In order to identify the perceptive toward our environment, we need to define our own point of view. There are many diffirent ways that we can interpret the subject. We had to look at the baby picture of the classmate. It is very interesting to be aware of our own perception. Once we are aware of what we are doing we may at least understand how and why we come up with that idea. It is a very effective way to raise our awareness and influence our learning process.

"Picture & Story Tell Day"

Every class is intriguing and I always learn something new to remove fear from my life. The picture and tell a story behind what we perceived was a great way for me see how perception is not always accurate, instead it's a collection of information of my own experience. Listening to the other stories made me laugh because of what people's assumptions where by just looking at a picture and we were not correct because we applied our own perception. This exercise was much more relaxing than last week when we had to self disclosure.

The lesson taught before lunch was impacting for me because I realize that my flaw in life is that I put to much meaning in to everything I do. I see now why I am so emotional and why my feelings are out of control it's because I did not know that putting so much meaning in to everythng caused anxiety and stress. No wonder I have been feeling full of anxiety, doubt, and stress because I can not find the meaning at this stage of my life right now. Now I see why I have been ill and unable to even be myself over trying to put meaning in my next chapter in life when I should be just letting go and trust that life will align it self. I am reflecting now and it is easier said than done but at least I know what has been troubling and I could attack this flaw of mind. All these years I am looking for meaning, instead I was driving my self crazy.

Now I go eat lunch ; )

Third day of class.

Believe me every class in HUC is interesting because we cannot just sit and lesson, always have something new in class. For example, we need to regornize the photo of our classmate and make a suggestion or opinoin what they gonna be in their future. It is interesting because Prof want to make sure that our brain is working every moment in the class. Honestly, communication is really important because every word that we express may have different meaning, if we don't how to communicate in the right term it may cause a problem.
Finally, we have been grouped in to 6 people and this is the time for us to work ever harder. We have been decided to work for the question number 2 as to create some music video, but we still don't have any clue what song is the best for the theme. We already voted for the team leader and we also share our contact information in order to work this project smoothly. I never work with the group that so challenging and this is my first group work in class that we really need to work together in order to get it done. Everyone of us have to find one of the theme song, therefore we could choose for the best song to fulfill the theme.

Heat As Communication

Today we talked about different persectives in communication. The psychological perspective focuses on message transmission and the conditions that allow that to happen. How does this week's temperatures affect how and what we communicate? Walking around, it seems that people are sluggish, tired, and lacking the energy to be "consciously aware," or "proactive" in their communication! Imagine if this were to last for several weeks. How would this affect our lives? Our jobs? Our relationships? Our economy? Therefore, is heat communication in itself or is it simply interference?

Conscious awareness

It is an act when bad consequences can be avoided through proactive response in communication. Without conscious awareness fatal damages will result from collusion of two different perceptions. Proactive action will help solve the problem and usually benefit those who initiates.
Imagine if each human being acts proactively and has conscious awareness, the world will always be in peace.

Perception and Communication Prospective On My Third Class by Shoma M

What is perception? To some it is the recognition of things using the senses while to others perception of something or someone is your understanding of them According to my studies in Psychological science, perception is the process of attaining awareness or understanding of sensory information. There are two basic theories of perception: Passive Perception and Active Perception. The passive perception is addressed could be surmised as the following sequence of events: surrounding → input (senses) → processing (brain) → output (re-action). Although still supported by mainstream philosophers, psychologists and neurologists, this theory is nowadays losing momentum. The theory of active perception has emerged from extensive research of sensory illusions and is increasingly gaining experimental support and could be surmised as dynamic relationship between “description” (in the brain) ↔ senses ↔ surrounding.
It is the real defination but I strongly belive that like how every thing is not permanent ,your perception for any thing or for anyone can change.

I loved the class project in the morning with classmates childhood pictures.It made me realize how, when we donot know about something we creat an illiusion about the situation which may be totaly different from the real situation . How we have the power to creat some thing important and not important to us. Love the fact that we are meaning making machine and lot of the time we creat meaning of any communication far too different than it actually is.
Communication is so powerful tool that it can creat or distroy evrything around us let it be relations, way of life or way of dying .

the third week of class

Today the first half of class was fun, we were told to bring in baby pictures and had to play a little game where we give our perception on someone elses baby picture. Which turned out to be good tho some were way off but we still got to share a few laughs. Looking foward to the second half of class.

3rd class

Today I like the c lass a lot.First of all it started with fun part.We were making stories about pictures of our classmetes.Ans it was king of game and a lot of fun.And at the same time we lerned new things such as perception.I learnt about open and close minded people and the meaning that we gave and receive.I am very ambisious person and I have a lot of meaning for everything.And it doesn't make my life easier.Professor told us that only we can change it inside us and give less meaning.I really need this because I always overreact and give meaning for everything
Also I learned aboutethnocentrism and extremism, and realized that it is true.Exrtemists are very closeminded people and they believe in their own world and don't want to know what is going on outside it.And many times I do exactly the same.But it is not so good and I need to change it.I really enjoy this class.I know that it teaches me a lot. And I am looking forward for next one

7.7.10

For today's class, we had to bring in our baby picture and the professor distributed the baby pictures to the class. We had to create a background and a story for the baby in the photos. Basically from this mini group work, the professor wanted to explain to us about perception and how perception affects our interpretations. And that interpretation or assumption can be completely incorrect or correct because of our open-mindedness or the lack of it. Also ethnocentrism can have a positive or negative impact on a person's communication because a person can talk about their culture with pride, but they can also belittle or degrade other cultures that are different from theirs.
I also learned about the four different ways of communication. The psychological aspect of communication is when there is communication between the sender and reciever, which can be done verbally or nonverbally. Also the communication is effective or ineffective because of the environment. Social constructionist is common amongst socialist, the communication is not based on an individual but it's about communicating to make the world a better place for everyone. Pragmatic communication is more strategized, the communication is manipulated or planned out so that the reciever to react in a certain way. Also there is a cultural study in relations to communication, how a culture or language can affect communication. The professor also explained about how we are meaning making machines, we try to make a meaning from everything in our lives and this affects our communication. We were to lose meaning in speaking in public, we may be able to become better communicators because we don't care for it and we get over the fear of it. We also formed groups for the group project, hopefully we'll be able to work together and create a great presentation.

Yesterday was a reall good class. I really enjoyed hearing other student's self disclosure. I did not expect that some students would have the strenght to go deeper and share with us their most important things to the point that i couldn't help myself and cried. Most self disclosures touched my heart and made me remind of things that i lived in the past as a child. I felt very identified with one in special. When my classmate started talking about what is live alone meaning no mother broke my heart. I know what is like to live alone. My siblings and i had to live by our own. Even though my parents provided everthing for us, there was always something that was missing. Love and Affect. Talking just by phone or having everthing is not indispensable. what care the most is being with the loved nes. When we were children , my parents came to the here and since then my oldest sister had to take care of us. Imagen a fitteen girl had to handle everthing. However, i finally gathered my parents and i am grateful with God for giving that chance to see them again. it was such great experience listening and sharing with my new classmates the bittersweets about their lives.