7/28/10

Today, I learned about 2 types of theories. The 1st theory was about the Knapp's Relational Developmental Model which has 2 stages. Stages in coming together include initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, and bonding. Most of people stop at initiating stage because it is hard to move onto the next levels. Stages in coming apart include differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, and terminating. In this stage, people stuck at avoiding because they do not want to terminate their relationships. The 2nd theory is about Steve Duck;s Filtering Theory. He said that we all filter persons because we try to eliminate those negative people to get the best one based on sociological or incidental filter, pre-interaction filter, and cognitive filter.
The second thing I learned about was the secret tests. People use the tests to examinate the relationship whether they are in a closed relationship or not. They include indirect suggestion, separation, endurance, triagle: testing jealousy. It is really dangerous to test the jealousy because it can damage relationship. For example, you can test your partner by saying someone else is trying to date you because you want to see how your partner reacts. If the partner acted normal, you would think he/she does not care about that because you are not being loved. Otherwise, if the partner was jealous about that, you would think he/she is not generous.