4th week of the class

Today, I learned about the differences between self-centered and selfish as I was always confused. Let’s just put it in a simple way to make it more clarified. Self-centered is limited to or caring only about yourself and your own needs but you are not putting anyone in a harm way. For example, if you and someone are looking for a job simultaneously but that person really needs that job to take care of his/her family, however; you also want to get the job over that person. You are being self-centered because you need that you to satisfy your needs. In contrast, selfish is thinking and acting as if one's own desires and interests are more important than the interests and desires of others. By saying selfish, you are getting benefit from people by hurting them. For example, stealing your friend’s girl friend or boyfriend could be considered selfish.
I also learned about reconstructing you and self. Time is an important issue over here. Time is interacted by 3 elements: past, present, and future. As the future is always coming toward us, we have to get over the past in order to continue our future. We have to put something in the future to motivate us to take action in present. Once we wiped out the past, we will be able to move on our new future.